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I feel like narcissism is something that is learned and is something that can be unlearned if the person is able to realize that they need to change and then take the steps to practice that change,and then continue practicing until change has takenplace and it's natural from then on... Not easy to identify and accept. Though once it is identified and the decision to accept that change is necessary ...is probably the first step to survive through the death of the narcissistic side of oneself. The next step would be forgiveness, in order to rid yourself of the guilt you carried around...the guilt is what the narcissist hides from I believe. In order to cope with that,they behave in a way that hurts others because it's soothing to them. I think ...idk. Kinda makes me wanna sign up for school. Whoa! Slow down lol
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Human Behavior by Björk
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From the article OP mentioned. I believe much more important point.
Most people fail in the art of living not because they are inherently bad or so without will that they cannot lead a better life; they fail because they do not wake up and see when they stand at a fork in the road and have to decide. They are not aware when life asks them a question, and when they still have alternative answers. Then with each step along the wrong road it becomes increasingly difficult for them to admit that they are on the wrong road, often only because they have to admit that they must go back to the first wrong turn, and must accept the fact that they have wasted energy and time.
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One has to want change, b4 change can happen.
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narcissist only want people to change to fit well into the narcissist's way.
i married one.
she pounds you into submission until what you want is no longer relevant. my closet is full of hobbies, books, games, and clothes i like.
then she played dress up with the kids.
she chooses the movies and where to eat.
she decides where to go on vacation without you.
she chooses the car you drive (used from her).
and the shampoo and soap you wash with.
total control freak.
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iRent...
you think a self-centered, self-serving, selfish narcissist would EVER allow YOU choice?
if you were her drive test examiner, she'd demonstrate the skills she wants and expect her permanent license handed to her. and she'll score herself 100%.
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One definition of insanity I believe centers around continually doing the same thing and expecting different results. Sometimes a whole lifetime of frustration and anger results. We are so caught up in our stories about ourselves we do not question them and realize they might be wrong in some way, false or whatever. They become patterns of behavior and thought that are hard to change. Change is difficult, often because when we make changes things around are no longer valid or resistant to our change.
You hear the term life changing circumstances . Sometimes it takes a real jolt in our lives to motivate us to change. But it is often necessary.
I do believe there is some difference between a narcissist and a sociopath that might need examining.
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