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"More men cheat on their spouses than those who don't".
Not really.
“Research tells us that on average, around 20% of men are unfaithful to their spouse, as compared to 13% of women,”
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Link to first blog
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Statistics are a tricky thing. Some surveys or polls have indicated that as high as 72% of men cheat and 54% of women cheat. It really depends on who is conducting the survey/poll and what methods they use. It also makes a huge difference if the data pool is only married couples versus partners in general. But cheating is cheating in either case. And obviously, an anonymous survey/poll ALWAYS produces higher numbers over a survey/poll where the subject is known. But I still point to my comment, and belief, that even in an anonymous survey/poll some people are so embarrassed to admit having cheated that they still lie about. Others may lie about it because they are in denial. So in essence, the real numbers are ALWAYS going to be higher than reported. Taking all of this into account, I stand by my original statement.
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It's funny that you say your not monogamous to your BF. I think that is obvious because you are here.
No one on this site is monogamous.
The grass is always greener on the other side until you get over there.
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HX is necessary to make a platonic loving relationship work.
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Biologists distinguish between social monogamy and sexual monogamy. Social monogamy is fairly common, but sexual monogamy is distinctly uncommon. Remember those touching stories about bird couples that mate for life? Yeah, well, they may build nests and raise chicks together, but they still sleep around to mix up the gene pool. Similarly, in humans, social monogamy is common, but sexual monogamy is less common.
I have no problem with social monogamy. But sexual monogamy for a lifetime? Almost impossible. A couple of hundred years ago when families were scattered sparsely on the prairie, sexual and social monogamy were almost a necessity. Now, not so much. Like celibacy, it is impractical (and unnecessary) in today's world.
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That’s like saying a high percentage of couples end up divorced...but in real tea, it’s just the SAME people getting married & divorced upping the stats.
How many people do you know on their second, third, FOURTH marriage..?
Monogramy is not man made. We were created to be & act a certain way. That’s the truth of it. God is not some fairytale in the sky...
Genomes of animals were created by a genius. Here is part of the mouse genome on chromosome number 2, maybe someone can explain the function of this sequence of nucleotide bases...
gcagtggaca caggaatacg cagtggacac aggaatatgc agtggagaca ggaatacgca gtggacacag gaatacgcag tggacacagg aatacgcagt ggacacagga atacgcagtg gagacaggaa tatgcagtgg agacaggaat acgcagtgga cacaggaata cgcagtggac acaggaatac gcagtggaga ctggaatatg cagtggagac aggaacacgc agtggagaca ggaatatgca gtggagacag gaatacgcag tggagacagg aatacgcagt ggacacagga atacgcagtg gagacaggaa tacgcagtgg agacaggaac acgcagtgga gacaggaaca cgcagtggag acaggaatac gctgtggaga caggaataca ctgggtcggt ttggacgttg gtgctgggga ttgaagcaag ccttgaacgc gaccagacag tgctgtaact gaactgcttc ttccctgggg cagtgtttct ttcagttccg aggttctgct cacctggttt ctaatttatg cagataaatc tctgggtcaa gcataagtgt gcctacaact ttagcccttg gaagggaaag gcaggggatt gggagtttaa ccccaacctg cactgcgcag tgagactcta tctcaaaata ataatattgc agttggtaat cgggtctgtg aatccaaaat agtcctgaaa tatcatgttt tatcagtctc ttttataaaa acctaacaat attaccaaaa agccattgga ctgtctggag tactggagtt gggagcatta gaaaatgagg aaacagacag tggctctctg ctgctgcctg tctgaaggtg tagaaggtcc tccattggta gaggtttcaa gcagaaggca gcagtattgc cattcatctc tctgtctttc tccttcacag gagtatttct tgcaagcaga gttgacaagt aacgttttga aaacaggagt ggtccactgc tgtgtggggc agtgcaacaa caccatccct gtggacacca tccttaccat gaagaaactg cctatcactt atgtacgttc actgtgggag ttaagtcact caagcacctt ttcttgcttg tgcgttatgt gtctgtctag gttctggatg agggaggtaa tggagtcgtt tctataatgc ttccttcccc aagagttttc tatggaagca tggcagatgt gagttctgcc tttttgtcag agatggaacc aatgatctaa agtgagttgg gttggatgac tgctatttcc tgggtgtgct aaagacttcc agcctgggag gttgagctgt gctgagagac ctcagagggg agctgtttgc ctggaggacc tggttcaatc tttctttgtt ctttatctct ttcttattct ctggtgctag aaactgagca tgctagttgt gtactccagc gctcagcagt ccctagttct ttatctcctg atgggatgat tgtgttagtc ctctaaagga ctgggatgga gttgagtcta gatcagtgat cagtgggtgt gcacagccac aatgaattag catgttagca gatgtgacag taattcggcg ctttttggtg aaaaattttt atccttagat tgtcccttac tctttttctt atccatcctt gtagagcaac aggaaggaaa acaagggtgg ctacctctgc cactcatgtg cagagcagcg catcgggcct ttggcattcc tgactgcctc
This is only a small part of the 2,700,000,000 nucleotide bases that can create a mouse. If anyone believes that this is a result of random chance then they are mentally retarded.
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'What sets humans apart is our highly developed brains which give us the capability to experience emotions such as love, hate, empathy, sadness, jealousy,'
Seriously???
You actually think 'humans' are the only 'animal' that exhibit those emotions???
If that's the case you obviously haven't been around any of the other species that we share this planet with or haven't had any domesticated animals as 'pets' either or just haven't any paid attention what so ever.
Humans aren't, by any means special, other then they 're the only species on the planet that can, and do, ruin their host on a large scale - I take that back, viruses like the black plague, spanish flu, diphtheria, cancer etc. also do that.
If you want to compare humans to anything the nearest thing would be a bad virus or macro parasite.
The fact is that the planet and every other species on it would be better off if man went extinct.
There were actual examples of it when the lockdowns first happened and the planet was essentially left to it's own devices and did so much better.
I'm sure we'll prove that correct as man kind, I have no doubt, is on it's way.
Atticus Finch
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DM1 - your understanding of evolution is sorely lacking. Evolution is not random at all. It is driven by selection processes having to do with advantages that are conferred by a certain trait or set of traits. The pairing and sequence of cytosine, thymine, adenine, and guanine in the genes are responsible for these traits. The gene sequence in your post did not just randomly assemble itself, nor was a sentient being floating on a cloud in heaven responsible. That particular sequence of genes is the result of hundreds of millions of years of selective pressure that resulted in different survival rates. The organisms with that particular sequence of genes survived to reproduce more often than other gene sequences that were, consequently, weeded out of the population.
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Let me add that hydrogen bonding between the base pairs matters in the stability of the DNA structure. Why do you think some of us are cuckoo.. j/k
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Dunno the answer, but maybe because its true?
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My partner loves the fact that I make boom boom with other men. As I love the fact that he makes boom boom with other women. Although I’m way more active than he is because I drain him most of the time.
The cats out of the bag. 😂
XoTabie 
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Can't stress this enough...this site helped my marriage. And by that i mean, I get that itch, some beautiful human scratches that itch, and after that i always come home...and it's usually an hour out of my day. Where as an affair...ohhhh shit...that's a different story. hahah!!
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The evolutionary and biologically stunted grasp of science proffered by DavisM1 is truly stunning. Entertaining, for sure. But laughably ignorant of the facts, history, paleontological and historical evidence of the ascent of species and the basic science behind it.
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Him and water douche are the biggest trolls on this site. Stop feeding them and they will leave.
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My intent in posting this blog on monogamy was to incite an intelligent discussion on the matter, not provide a forum for personal attacks on one another. We are all entitled to our opinions! I am reminded of a very good saying I came across on Facebook - "Argue with the argument, not the person."
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Regarding animals that are monogamous. Genetic studies have shown for most animal couples that partner for life (cuckoos, ducks, geese), the females have offspring from males other than their partners. So they partner for life but are not necessarily sexually exclusive. You can extrapolate that both males and females practice non-exclusive mating. So back to Marissa,s blog, monogamy needs to be clearly defined. Is it sexual exclusiveness or coupling? Humans and other types of animals my couple for life (this is a social practice) but are rarely exclusive sexually (biological behavior). It’s important to distinguish between the two aspects of behavior.
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Makes you wonder don’t it?
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Look at nature, everything is perfectly aligned to improve itself.
So is the human species.
the female typically will only couple with someone who can provide for her and family and who is attractive to the female - typically by being on her level of attractiveness or better; and she will mate with this male almost exclusively with the exception of different male of certain prowess - usually this male is even more impressive either by physical size, strength, mental capacity or other accolades (such as being able to yell words in a smooth and rhythmic manner); all qualities to which the female is programmed to invite as a mate for improving her DNA line.
the male typically is a very different make up, he is programmed with testosterone - a hormone directing (programming) him to have mating urges on much higher frequencies than his counterpart.
The mating not only is motivated by this hormone, the male is also rewarded with a different hormone called dopamine at time of mating, as a matter of fact his brain is surged with dopamine at ejaculation/orgasm - this hormone brings felling of strong pleasure to his brain and nerves.
The male is often drawn in to one specific female who wants him to couple for life and is promised frequent mating to keep his urges satisfied and to please him.
The male will often mate with other females as his urge to mate frequent is strong so if there are willing mates, he will often risk the ramification of mating outside the couple.
One could say the design of the female is to improve the DNA line whereas the design of the male is to keep the frequency of reproduction at the highest level.
Both are required to keep the species from going extinct.
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I was told, "to remain faithful and pure in your relationship, one should not have any thoughts or desires to think, look, want, or desire another person other than your relational person. Save your carfare. If you even thought of another, you already are unfaithful and not monogamous." Wow.
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Sex has nothing to do with LOVE !! LOVE EXCLUSIVILY EMOTION, ACEPTANCE,NESESITY TO AN EXTEND, I LOVE SOME OF MINE FRIENDS,BUT NO SEX INVOLVE, I HAVE SEX , FOR PLEASURE, OK I LOVE ALL YOU LADIES IN HX!!.
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Marrisa, you have an amazing smile. That is all I can see, that'll s all I know. Be happy as you go along your way. Some will cross paths with you, others will not. It is what it is.
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I do think people can differentiate from 'making love' to recreational sex. One involves emotions and the other orgasms.
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mahogany is what keeps us together.
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Mahogany is a dense, hard wood. Beautiful grain. Much heavier than knotty pine.
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Bonobos got it right
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I thought who's on first?
I'm glad that Marissa and Tabie's respective partners share them with us! Both too fine to keep to themselves.
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@ Johnny411 iv been told the same that I have saved marriages. I show love passion and skills, when I met him I want him to feel good for days, then he can't wait to return 💋
A time he will never forget, a time he becomes all I see even if it's for a short time he will feel loved important and the only one❤
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^^I am sure you've helped save many more than you know. I once read a wise monger wrote: "I spent all those years and thousands of dollars on couples therapy, but as it turns out all I needed was an hour with an hx girl ..."
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I couldn’t agree more….living your life to the fullest and don’t deprive yourself of the pleasures that are out there to experience…. Hope to be one of them sometimes soon….
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I just like whores. That's about it.
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^I prefer ladies of the night. A little more class, and you can have them join you at great experiences outside the bedroom.
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I don't know why you guys keep having sex with ducks and chimpanzees. Its how bird flu, HIV, and covid started. Let's keep it monogamous!
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Your no fun.
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Wow, I can recall the day when reference to sex with anything but a human was TOS.
Yet, I still get the ocassional post deleted....for what?
Things have really changed on TOS, not even sure it has any meaning anymore.
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"Research tells us that on average, around 20% of men are unfaithful to their spouse, as compared to 13% of women,”
How they know this when they don't even know the dif between a man and a woman?
We got 64 genders now, these studies are officially meaningless.
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^ 20% of men? I would like to know where that figure came from. I have followed this subject for decades and that is the lowest figure I have ever seen, by far!
If the survey or poll asks people where their name is known then I could believe that. Lots of people will lie if their identify is known. Even more will lie because of denial. Make it a truly anonymous survey and I'll bet the numbers will triple!
20% of men? I'll bet that survey was taken at a church!
Maybe in the mid-80's that was the case when the big scare was the "dreaded bogus" (HIV/AIDS) or maybe during the recent pandemic when almost everyone was sequestered at home!
Go to any bar at midnight and ask the guys who are not with a woman at the time and find the true numbers! Alcohol induced truth!
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This dude goes to bars at midnight looking for men.
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Can't cheat if you're single 😎
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I think hobbying is not cheating.
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