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I’ve noticed it a lot as well lol
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That sucks.
I know life does happen, but I would never no show on a lady.
I always communicate and if something did come up, I would typically then do an immediate reschedule with the lady.
If I had to cancel right before my appointment, I would definitely make it up to the lady, giving her a very big tip for losing business due to my cancellation.
We all need to treat each other and our time more respectfully.
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Anybody who flakes on you must be blind or an idiot. You are hot AF!
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Were these HX members (I'm betting not) or someone who contacted you through a different ad?
I know that your first knee-jerk reaction is to start asking for deposits. That would certainly help curtail the problem but it will also curtail the amount of guys that will actually make a deposit.
I do NOT require deposits for HX Level 1+ guys (if I did, they probably wouldn't do it anyway). The reason is simple; they have, what I call, "skin-in-the-game." That is, these guys have spent a lot of time and money in developing a solid network, they are not likely to throw that good reputation away by doing a no-call/no-show (NCNS). Anyone contacting you from a site or ad where they don't have any skin-in-the-game is much more likely to do the NCNS.
IMPORTANT: If a person contacts you via email or text without contacting you directly through the HX site first they may be an impostor. It happens a lot more frequent than we would like, and they seem to prey on the newbies because they think you haven't figured out the game yet. If they do contact you and claim to be on HX then ask them to send you a "flirt" or a Personal Message (PM) directly from their account so you can be sure that this person really has control of that account don't be surprised if they go radio silent on you after making this request). These impostors seem to prey on the newbies because they know newbies are more likely to make a mistake. Or, they could be one of those first responder types that we try so desperately to avoid.
Also suggest you ask to join the "noobz" club. There is a lot of good information and help there that can help you from making the mistakes that these guys prey on.
Welcome to HX! Stay safe!
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there are plenty of guys who get off on that game
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And to answer the question of why they do this? - who knows! At best they are inconsiderate assholes, at worse they could be collecting addresses for some nefarious reason.
If you are doing an incall at a residence then I suggest using the 2-step approach in giving out the address: 1) tell them to go to a nearby shopping center (not too big of one) near you and text you from there. 2) then ask them to take a quick pic of any storefront there and send it to you. This should verify that they are truly there and not playing games with you. Then, and only then, give them the actual address! But again, I do not ask this of HX Level 1+ guys.
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@marissa These were HX men.
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They were however both level 0 one having 5 pos safety ratings and other 15
And gentlemn .. thank you for the lovely compliments and feedback as well
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Various reasons.. one example can depend on what guys who have visited you and what they have shared with others that pm about you before deciding to visit u. That can be good or bad . The ladies that provide outstanding service on hx rarely have this issue..
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Yes, but did they send you a PM? If not there are people that say they are so and so, but they are not. That is why a bunch of us list that if you did not get a PM first from us they are not us.
You can read PMs without having points. You only need points to send a PM. If I send a lady a PM and she does not have mail privileges, I will give her 7 days of mail (they may not see my PM immediately). You can also send them FX points for one day.
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@sweetcheeksXOXO well it is a little comforting to know it's not just me lol
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lmao at how some people think none of the men from this site dont flake or waste girls time...
most of the men on this board waste girls time... or they pm asking for ur info more times then u can count and dont bother booking u which is a total waste of time...
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Good point pleaser .. it goes both ways.
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Us guys we suck shit at times 
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@mark1224 they PM'd and I verify everyone twice with text and I don't send an address until an hour before appointment time .. etc
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In my younger days, there were times when I would set an appointment with a provider, and then get so aroused thinking about it that I would manualy release myself, and then cancel.
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Becoming more common. I wish clients respected our time like any other businesses.
This is why I require a deposit from low levels and non members
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I love ... "manually release myself". Like DIY boiler maintenance rather than calling for a plumber.
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Maybe they have second thoughts. Maybe once they see where you’re at, they are skeptical. Do you stay in a safe location or a seedy motel?
Other times as the day goes by, perhaps they lose interest or someone else becomes available that they may prefer to see.
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"I don't send an address until an hour before appointment time"
I know I mailed you without scheduling. It will happen one of these days. I realized how far Sherman Oaks is and it would honestly take me more than an hour to drive there. Which is not a problem when I commit to an appointment.
I can't speak for the people who flaked on you, but I can say that in the past I have set up appointments with women and then asked them to give an address or cross street and got no response, and I just ended up not going. Because how can I be sure they'd respond to me when I get there when they won't respond to me now? This is especially true when some providers list "Los Angeles" or "Long Beach" and then pretend that isn't hundreds of square miles. I need to plan a route on Google Maps and figure out when to head out so I'm not late, which can't happen if someone doesn't give me at least a ballpark address. Hope that isn't happening here.
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^^ Leave Long Beach outta this 🤨🙃
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They beg for you to come then no show.
Just gotta stay positive.
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I think it's a power trip for some. Others get bored and rub one out in the meantime.
I've had women flake on me and it sucks to burn a window of opportunity. Those windows are few and far between.
On the other hand, my schedule is pretty damn challenging. So I don't book so I don't have to cancel. And end up sitting home by myself.
Trying to find a balance.
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I have started several blogs about no show, no call vs. the lady going radio silent when contacted at the appointment time. This is a problem for both sides without a clear solution. Deposits really don’t work, and painting someone red for safety is, in my opinion, an overreach.
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I hear what you're saying and go out of my way to communicate with a provider. And if I can't make it, I cancel out of respect for their time.
On the other side of the coin, when we schedule a visit, I would expect the provider to respect my time. Waiting well beyond our agreed upon time is not cool. It swings both ways.
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@pure_pleaser
No doubt there are a lot of time wasters on every site, including HX. I only negotiate the appointment via email or by PM on the HX site directly. Once they say OK I send a very direct email or PM asking for confirmation via text. Once they confirm via text then I provide the address (or the first step of a 2-step process). Everything prior to them sending me a confirmation text is just pure marketing and negotiating stuff. If they refuse to to send the confirmation text I consider the time spent up to that point as just the cost of doing business. It does irk me, but I just concentrate on the next possible session. However, if they send a confirmation text and then go radio silent AFTER I have given the address then I consider that a very serious safety concern and may rate them negatively for it. Address collectors should not be considered "just the cost of doing business", and should not be tolerated. And that goes both ways for guys and girls; if a girl agrees to an outcall, gets the address, then goes radio silent and doesn't show, then I would not blame the guy for issuing a negative rating.
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It cuts both ways and sometimes stuff happens.
For example, a while back I set an appointment with a well reviewed service provider who posted earlier in this thread. Set an appointment the day before, communicated back and forth and confirmed via text the morning of the appointment, and I headed over.
When I got there, nothing. It was full silence. I texted several times with no response, and then messaged through HX. Waited over 30 minutes. No response. So I left.
Later in the day I followed up again to ask what happened, said I hoped everything was ok, and that hopefully we could connect again soon. Again, silence.
So like I said, it cuts both ways. In my professional business, people regularly make appointments and then no-call/no-show. It sucks when it involves getting dressed up, travel, and other preparation before the client(s) arrive...only to find out they just don't show up.
All parties should be considerate of all sides.
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^ Agreed! It's all about just common respect - for each other!
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Wow y'all, I wasn't expecting so much feedback. Thank you all ... I appreciate everyone's advice and opinions.
I understand cancelations, for any reason or no reason at all, life happens... I would however expect a quick text letting me know, more time in advance the better, but even if it's just before the appointment time, is still helpful.
Hope everyone has a Beautiful Day!!
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When I get a NCNS from a woman, I look at like I was spared a bad time. If someone has so little integrity as to ghost me, that it would have been worse to actually see them. Put them on the do not see list and move on.
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If I'm interested in possibly meeting a lady I haven't seen before, I always ask for details regarding appointments (translation: menu, donation). That doesn't mean I'm going to book time yet. If the details don't work for me, I always PM back so the lady knows not to expect further communication from me.
If the details DO work for me, I'll PM the lady to schedule an appointment time, then take it from there.
If something comes up and I can't make it, I'll either text or PM as far in advance as possible.
Ghosting from either party means that either party is not ready or willing to transact for whatever reason.
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<--- has never flaked.
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There are shitty guys on this site. There are shitty ladies on this site. Hard to avoid either, unfortunately, and both can rightfully complain.
Sorry that happened, but chalk it up to the game, and know that most are not in that shitty group.
You definitely are a vibe, so you will have a great run.....
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I can say that clear and effective communication is the key. I have had very few NCNS (maybe 4 or 5) in the last year and a half. And most of those were non-HX appointments. We make mistakes, we learn, we get better. Hang in there and keep on keep'n on!
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I agree with bwana.
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I solved the problem by only having outcall to me. . If she doesn’t show I just retire early for the evening. The pool for ladies who do outcall has shrunk over the years though.
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That's the main reason why I do outcalls only, and book incall for clients I know well already and don't flake. Because I could only imagine planning a incall, booking clients and everyone no show or reschedules. I'd feel somewhat disappointed, my opinion I think it comes with the business, So plan wisely ladies in case no one does show up.
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