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Ayla_Amour
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Sexy is a state of mind
Jun 6 2023 11:48PM more by Ayla_Amour
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I just wanted to share some thoughts and feelings about body positivity since it is a big aspect of this dynamic of meet ups for both men and women.
Women feel the pressure in this industry to live up to ridiculous beauty standards. Sometimes it feels like it is all we are worth in this line of work.

It can be all consuming and destructive feeling at times. We are inundated with photos, shows and commercials of what the effortlessly beautiful and perfect woman looks like. And most of the time, whatever work or treatments they have had done is kept hush hush.
We are always comparing ourselves to other women. Is my waist small enough, are my boobs big enough, is my ass big enough, are my lips, big enough, is my hair long enough. I can go on and on. It doesnt help that there are entire forums dedicated to men rating us on all of these attributes.
At the same time I know men are suffering from this same predicament just on a different scale and in silence.

I worked at a strip club back in the day, it wasnt for me but I learned an incredibly valuable lesson while I was there. I met an amazing woman. She raked in the most money by far, more then anyone else there. Way more then the girls that had the so called perfect bodies. She had a little bit of belly, her titties were kinda lopsided and her booty was flat. But she was SO MUCH FUN. She was kind, she was HILARIOUS, she made everyone feel comfortable and she was a damn good time. I loved and adored her with all my heart as did any man that walked through those doors.
To all the women here FOCUS ON THIS MINDSET. Easier said then done I know, but it is the key to success in this industry. At least thats what Ive come to learn.
And to the men out there I know you struggle with similar judgments it is just less talked about. The best men I have come to love, adore and respect are the ones that appreciate and reciprocate that same energy. If you love yourself, if your are confident and kind to women the world is your oyster. (At least with the women that are actually worth your time and what you deserve)
I want to share a screenshot of something I wrote on this topic back in 2018 giving thanks and appreciation to all the amazing men in my life.
I also want to share a meme of Marilyn that I look at when I am feeling down or self conscious about my body. Ivehad it saved In my phone for years. I look at it and am reminded of the woman I worked with at the club who perfectly embodied this mindset and it lifts my spirits everytime.
The third image is of a book I cant highly recommend enough. Especially for women In this field. My body is not an apology by Sonya Renee Taylor.
Sexiness is a state of mind. Love yourself, own that shit and share this energy with everyone you meet. It pays off and I like to think it also makes the world a better place.
If you got this far thanks for reading�°ï¿½ï¿½ï¿½

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sandydonald1959
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Jun 7 2023 01:38AM     link to this


This is the second time you've tiptoed into the waters rarely touched - the idea of self-appreciation, self-confidence, knowing the difference between a good man and a bad boy, and sides of life that can get easily lost in the haze of society's shallow views.

I respect you so much, and look forward to meeting you, even if it's just a platonic hello. I'm a bit old and worry about things like that, but you appear to be the kind of person we all need in out lives ... someone considerate, someone moving, someone better than the average human.

Much love and success.
k2wongbangers
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Jun 7 2023 05:00AM     link to this

💥💟
islandtalent
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Jun 7 2023 05:06AM     link to this

Bravo Ayla 👏. Looks may be one the reasons why men are attracted to a women but personality, self worth, positivity, and kindness is what brings them back again and again.
big1234
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Jun 7 2023 05:55AM     link to this

I agree. With regard to body design, God creates perfection and she doesn’t make mistakes.
NickSgv
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Jun 7 2023 07:48AM     link to this

I think she created mine on an off day, with scrap.
notsofast
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Jun 7 2023 09:51AM     link to this

Look at Ayla, with one of the hottest bods around, out here telling us it's ok to be fat and happy...

Thanks sweetheart!
AFMadness
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Jun 7 2023 11:08AM     link to this

I'll just say this. I've been listening to some of the Lyrics in Lady Gaga's songs. Some really strike a cord in me. As she gets it and I think that deep down it is what ever man wants.

Born This Way, Yes you are all Super Stars.
Hold My Hand, ....

Now I see why she's won so many awards.
newpeep
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Jun 7 2023 11:09AM     link to this

You are that Inspiring Thank You …Big Life…Big Love


Kindly


Thank You
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Jun 7 2023 11:47AM     link to this

Ayla you’re sexy AF when I can finally get some mail privileges would love to see you!!!
LngbdSR
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Jun 7 2023 03:14PM     link to this

Ayla, women are the most beautiful creatures on this planet. I personally love all
DahliaLove
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Jun 7 2023 03:27PM     link to this

swoon
jazz51
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Jun 7 2023 03:31PM     link to this

Love a lady who is totally sexy in her mind....it then translates to her body as she is able to fully engage with her partner.

The brain is the largest sex organ.....
Latin_Lover
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Jun 7 2023 04:51PM     link to this

I love Billy Joel song "Just the Way You Are" is all about acceptance and you can accept others when you start accepting yourself first.
Well said ma Cherie 👏
Ayla_Amour
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Jun 7 2023 06:04PM     link to this

@afmadness
https://youtu.be/XwODt-T_cbU

Amen. 🤣
Ayla_Amour
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Jun 7 2023 06:11PM     link to this

Also how many instruments do you play? What is your vocal range? How many songs have you written? Your comment is so irrelevant I can’t believe I let myself get trolled haha
Ayla_Amour
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Jun 7 2023 06:38PM     link to this

Ok I’m feeling a little feisty so one more for the road.

https://youtu.be/laIr_d0hFB8

See ya in Pasadena next weekend fellow harlots💋💋💋
kengreeneyes1
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Jun 7 2023 06:48PM     link to this

Ayla,

Your positive attitude does Carry over to your interactions with others. Good for you.
Tabie
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Jun 8 2023 08:39AM     link to this

I’m in love.
big1234
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Jun 8 2023 10:56AM     link to this

For Marilyn Monroe yes ...that other one is in unhealthy realm.
mbc2000
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Jun 8 2023 07:32PM     link to this



Let's face some facts. Women didn't have financial autonomy until the mid 1970's. Meaning a woman could own, manage property, or access credit without a husband to cosign a loan. You go back 100 years my grandmother's marriage to my grandfather was arranged. Choice.?

Unfortunately today the patriarchal ways are trying to take back freedoms that most of us thought were long fought for and won. Now, this small dying group of Christian fascists are openly gerrymandering, committing acts of voter suppression. 35,000 ballots in Florida disqualified in 2020. In 2022 Texas disqualified 24,000 mail in ballots. Probably from the biggest democratic district. This is where they have a 6 week abortion ban.

There are women made to carry a dead fetus until it turns sepsis. That's the only time a doctor can legally intervene without being charged with murder. That is Christian fascism. If that isn't evil I don't know what is.... maybe NOT doing something about it.








GoBallsDeep
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Jun 8 2023 08:46PM     link to this

^ train derailment on aisle 5
"How to Turn a Positive Uplifting Blog into a Shit Show" in one easy lesson.

MBC, you gotta take the meds every day, no skipping just cause you feel OK.
OK?

Carry on, OP. It's good stuff.
mbc2000
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Jun 9 2023 02:30AM     link to this



Yeah, I admit to being all over the place. The slow wheel of justice has finally come for trump. He's the last rat standing. 🐀 I guess we're going to find out if trump is capable of keeping his big fat mouth shut. Trump has his followers thinking the feds got nothing. You know he'll use you dopes to do another Jan 6th.


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