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Selina_HB
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what do you think about "that it's not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that
Jun 11 2023 09:07PM more by Selina_HB
Tags: Orange County, Random (All tags)

Came across a gentleman�s profile while I was having coffee this evening, I spent about 15 mins to read what he wrote there, not that the content is long, it�s just 13 sentences, but each of them just like a principle, makes me want to chew in each sentence, read over and over again, reflect and think�I don�t know how many years it takes this gentleman to learned all these, most of them resonate with me so much(except the 5th sentence) and it�s something valuable to me to save! I want to share them here after his approval(thank you!):

I've learned-
that if someone makes you miserable more than they make you happy, it doesn't matter how much you love them, you need to let them go.

I've learned-
that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I've learned-
that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.

I've learned-
that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

I've learned-
that it's not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.

I've learned-
that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

I've learned-
that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I've learned-
that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I've learned-
that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I've learned-
that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I've learned-
that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I've learned-
that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I've learned-
that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

About the 5th I have mentioned above:
�I've learned- that it's not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts�
To my experiences it�s the opposite, I have learned that what I have in life is mine but who in my life can change, so sometimes I try very hard to focus on getting what I want instead of being aware of who I have in my life�maybe I�m not wise enough to value the weight of these two, or simply because the importance of each of them changes at different stage in my life. I would love to hear how others feel about this�
      
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pandop
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Jun 11 2023 09:30PM     link to this

Life is always changing so who and what you have will change with it. Values change because people change so it's important to surround yourself with people who share the same values as you.
RobBlakeFan
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Jun 11 2023 09:34PM     link to this

I've learned most of that is common sense or some shit you see on a hallmark card.
gromit
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Jun 11 2023 09:41PM     link to this

Selina, I have found you to be a caring and thoughtful person, who is self motivated and has a clear plan in mind. I interpreted the quote as placing more importance on those whom you care about than material things that you have. I believe that is the type of person you are based on our interactions.
Selina_HB
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Jun 11 2023 09:52PM     link to this

I know...unfortunately these are not common sense to everyone lol, even the brightest ones are not aware of each of them
pattonj
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Jun 11 2023 10:01PM     link to this

True feelings trump material things always.
OCCityBoy2
OC, CA
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Jun 11 2023 11:08PM     link to this

People in your life should mean more to you than stuff.

There are a few people that bring me peace and kindness. The others, just bring noise, or bring me GRIEF. Those, I can live without. You have to take care of yourself. Mentally. Emotionally. Spiritually. Maybe it's a pet. A security blanket. At the end of the day, something to get you through the night.

Stuff can't comfort you. Stuff won't solve your problems.
Promoplex
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Jun 12 2023 05:59AM     link to this

It's not all pink pineapples and jelly beans. Looks like your on the right path.
GoBallsDeep
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Jun 12 2023 05:31PM     link to this

*tldr
Hey1
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Jun 12 2023 08:19PM     link to this

As long as you are not the above guy you are doing ok.
GoBallsDeep
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Jun 12 2023 09:41PM     link to this

^ bottom guy
GoBallsDeep
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Jun 12 2023 09:45PM     link to this



Seriously, it's like having the perfect humorless sap posting set-up straight lines every time!
Thanks, HeyCocks1!!!

OCCityBoy2
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Jun 17 2023 07:59PM     link to this

Selina,

People come into your life and out... Some stay a while, some stay longer.

I come from a time before cellphones and the Internet. Before computers, laptops, tablets, and Wi-Fi. There was no media to stream, and AM radio was king. Personal entertainment didn't exist. We had record parties. Listening to 33-1/3 rpm 12" vinyl, and 7" 45 rpm singles.

There wasn't as much fast food, more diners and restaurants were around. We went to the park more, and played at the playground.

We did not have as much back then, not so many clothes, not so much stuff on our walls, not as many cabinets and drawers to stuff. We even parked 2 cars in a 2-car garage!
OCCityBoy2
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Jun 17 2023 08:05PM     link to this

Now that I am in my later years, it's the quality of conversations, the warmth of our embraces, and the passion of the kisses we share that mean the most. Times that build memories, that'll we can cherish forever, that will never fade in time.

Like the first time I heard "I am in love with you", and I felt the same about her. I'll never forget her. It's not the stuff you have or collected that mattered, but the few people who mean everything to me.
sneakyaf
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Sep 29 2024 01:22AM     link to this

There is no right or wrong answer for the 5th statement. People are just different. Some people value human connection more than material wealth. Some value material wealth more than human connection. Your life experiences, traumatic events(C-PTSD), your relationship with your parents and being loved or the absence of love while your brain develops, determines your values, self-image and how you perceive others. If you value materialistic wealth over people, it is not ethically wrong. Just be true to yourself and what you want in life. However, do not take anyone that cares about you and loves you for granted. They are priceless.


The biggest regrets people have right before they pass are as follows:

1. "I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me."
2. "I wish I didnt work so hard."
3. "I wish I had the courage to express my feelings."
4. "I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends."
5. "I wish that I had let myself be happier."


University of Pennsylvania commencement speech by Oncologist Siddhartha Mukherjee, Pulitzer Prize winner.
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sneakyaf
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Sep 29 2024 01:32AM     link to this

i meant pulitzer prize author btw not winner 🙈
Grumpy_Butthead
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Sep 29 2024 05:33AM     link to this

I have learned hatchet 4000 is a wise old fart.
loucfirr1
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Sep 29 2024 11:25AM     link to this

And he knows how ro find my car!
hepcat096
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Sep 29 2024 01:42PM     link to this

For whatever reason, these comments brought this gem of my generation to mind. This line still hits hard:

I decided long ago
Never to walk in anyone's shadows
If I fail, if I succeed
At least I'll live as I believe
No matter what they take from me
They can't take away my dignity
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