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I agree... that is kind of the spirit of HX and what makes it great. I always respond to checks for reviews on girls in my network and I send a lot of requests out. I would love if providers did the same. HX allows you to be discerning if people communicate!
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While I have no problem with giving a reference I know a lot of girls don’t like to do it because it is technically free labor that isn’t benefiting them in any way.
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Guys ask me about girls in my network constantly, and I respond 100% of the time. It takes less than a minute. I know you girls could write out two canned responses for good or bad and respond even faster.
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Free labor?
It's just like shooting a text to a friend or commenting on a picture on social media (for me).
I get it tho people lack empathy for others and are quick to make an excuse for anything. Then wonder why they have no actual reliable people in their lives.
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It's a premise of the site.
Networking is there for a reason.
Yeah that last part of what Fiji said is unreal, the younger crowd tend to think money just falls from the sky or into their hands cause they'd probably be to lazy to pick it up from the ground lol
I'm just saying.
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Yeah I NEVER understood that. I thought it was suppose to somewhat of sisterhood to all of us to keep each other safe.
I don�t even reach out for references checks anymore. What�s the point?
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It could also be that their account is controlled by their booker. And the booker has no clue.
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Could it be that they were not all that, but not enough to say ?
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Two things I always do when PMing someone for a reference check is to (1) include a link to the profile I'm asking about so the person I'm contacting can quickly get to the page where their notes are, and (2) verify if the person I am PMing for the reference check has ability to send mail and can respond to my questions.
For the first item, Copy the URL to the profile page of the person you are asking about. Then when you are composing the PM to the person in their network, click on Attach Links at the bottom and Paste the web link in the appropriate field.
For the second item, go to the profile page of the person you are PMing and click on the button at the top to Unlock Mail. It will either say they don't need ya because they already have mail privileges or it will say they can't send mail at the moment and you have the option to spend fx points to purchase 1 day/3 days/7 days of mail for them.
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I think Yourbaby_Fiji was very accurate and diplomatic in her response.
The less diplomatic way to put it is I think some people are only concerned with their own safety and could care less about anyone else's safety. Obviously it is too much effort for them to take the time to respond in order to possibly help someone else.
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Randy hit the nail on the head. If you want me to do a reference check then please provide a link to his profile. I get pretty busy and quite, honestly, doing reference checks comes last. In the ensuing chaos those low profile requests get lost.
Make it easy for me and I will do it in seconds! Make it so I have to hunt and it goes to the back of the "to-do" list.
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Sharing information is one of the key aspects of HX and one that sets it apart from other social sites.
I gladly provide my input to most of those who ask. However, I check their network first to see if they have negative ratings and their most recent positive ratings. I am concerned about giving a positive recommendation to someone who might take advantage of the girl. I won't reply to those inquiries.
I also ask for information before contacting someone who interests me. I check to see if they have mail, and send the link as RandyMantooth suggested, but I also check for their most recent ratings. If they haven't been active within the last 6 months or so, I don't bother sending and inquiry since they may not even be participating on HX anymore.
And if I don't get a reply from someone after a fair amount of time, I add a note about it in his profile. I have had some of those same guys ask me later for recommendations, and I tell them exactly whom I had asked about and when and that they hadn't replied, so I'm not providing them any recommendations either.
I prefer not to do that because I've enjoyed a very nice time with most of the women I've seen, and I would like to help them and the community by sharing that information.
As for the women sharing information, it is a matter of their safety that concerns them enough to inquire before going forward with a date. Every woman should make it a priority to provide that information in a timely manner.
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"While I have no problem with giving a reference I know a lot of girls don’t like to do it because it is technically free labor that isn’t benefiting them in any way." - Is that much different from girls who beg for HX points, "emergency" help with rides, hotel rooms etc. when they have no intention of ever reciprocating for the assistance?
GT
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TomD highlighted some things that are completely on point. If you are PMing someone for a reference and they are not active on HX, don't hold your breath. Also, if you care about the person being asked about, it is good to check the network of the person asking to see if others you trust think well of them or think they are a piece of shit.
Regarding what Fiji said, I think in terms of "what's in it for me" is true for some accounts, particularly those managed by bookers who don't care about the safety of the ladies they don't work with (and sometimes about the ladies they do). Most independent ladies understand that it is in their best interest to be a resource for others.
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I do hope that the ladies I have seen would give references.
If I find out a lady is not willing to share with others and doesn't provide information about me, I will not see her again. I repeat often and would feel that person is not supporting this site and the safety of all here at Hx.
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I am reference friendly on all platforms
Text me for faster response !
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What is the whole purpose of "safety ratings" section on HX, shouldn't that be enough.? We also have to keep in mind that many of the HX members have different accounts for whatever their reason may be. Besides I don't want to be responsible for someone else's behavior human beings are unpredictable. Some of us may play by the rules others not so much, say I see someone and he thought of me so highly but if their homoboys won't approve of me he will changed my ratings to less than satisfactory, what am I supposed to say or do? Nothing as long as they say that I am safe that's all it matters to me at least and no I am not jealous nor salty because someone who have seen me want to see someone else, the minute I changed career I knew what I was getting into no one belongs to no one. As long as the guest have what I want welcome other wise keep on moving. Whatever happens between you and me stay with me. Yes I'm one of kind I love privacy ...
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there is a reason so many providers aren't reference friendly... i don't mind giving one... but most wont because just cause someone has a good experience with one person doesn't mean its going to be the same for the next person... i have seen gentlemen that have been nice and friendly to other providers but my experience was totally different and they was rude and disrespectful and pushy.. but everyone is different..
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I’d like to think if it was a bad experience, someone would say something. But if money is more important to you than other ladies’ safety and peace of mind, you need to get your priorities straight. Even if it is one persons experience over another, it’s about having a sense of safety and openness in our community. Y’all should be doing your part, this ‘only out for myself’ shit is gonna get ladies hurt.
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I keep session records on each visit in the persons Notes section, as well as a few words to pass on for reviews. When people ask me for references, if I have the profile link, it takes just seconds to send along a review.
I have a boilerplate response to review requests:
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"When you ask for a recommendation or review, it’s very helpful to include a link to the person's profile. These are always of the form:
https://www.humaniplex.com/profiles/HXHANDLE
where HXHANDLE is the person's handle on HX. Use “attach link” to include that in your message.
This is useful because many people keep notes on the users profile page, and this makes it much easier to copy and share them with you.
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* Please spell the handle correctly!
* If I give you a positive recommendation, and you see someone, please let me know how it went. Things change and I’d like my reviews and notes to be accurate.
* If what you hear in a review is negative, don’t rat me out. Honesty is an important commodity."
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I think that the same thoughts might apply for women seeking references.
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I try my best to give a reference check, I do prefer all the info on the gentleman as possible. Link to profile and phone number and Cock size. The last one is the hardest. I dont login that often so it’s hit or miss, I’m sure most ladies from my observation don’t like to share. Which doesn’t make sense because sharing is caring 🤪
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It’s not just an issue with ladies. If I’m interested in seeing someone I always reach out to guys in their network who they’ve seen recently and provide a link. I would say less than 50% of guys get back to me. I always get back when when asked… it’s just common curiosity.
Oh and @tabie… cock size? I didn’t know you had limitations on that! 😂
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Pooter is the one who has limitations, I was making a funny 🤪
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Women give ref checks to each other on guys? Having a high level is not enough?
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Thats nice. Everybody has their own reasons for not wanting to share sometimes. I have no problem giving references as long as the person is polite to me when asking why not. Especially if it is someone who isn't safe I'm more then happy to share to make sure we all stay safe.
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its not only the ladies who don't give feedback. there are a number of male members who do not respond or give feedback. i can only hope they find themselves facing a pimp who wants to relieve them of their wallet or car keys. one hand washes the other - so to speak. glad that the majority of men on here know how this site works and how much safer everybody is w simple communication.
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I am totally reference friendly but I am not always on here nor do I check it all the time. It is best to text me even if it is just to say check your mail on hx.
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That's why I'll always have other ways of doing things
This topic has always been spoken on, the bottom line is majority of providers don't like giving references checks. They think it's taking money out of there pocket. I don't know if it's age,race or how long a provider been providing . But I'm happy to give references, but if you don't respond or be polite to me regarding references I'll let that potential client know..
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Because no one has time for anyone other than themselves. It's a me, me, me world.
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^^^ too true
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I often don’t see the request in time. I am only on a few days before my CA trip and while I am on my trip. Sorry
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With many of the girls being managed or having bookers help them with scheduling, I wonder if the girls even know about the request. Many of them may not even have access to the account.
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Idk but I’m reference friendly whether you give me a link to the profile or not. It’s really not that difficult, we are in the days of social media what’s a few more clicks and taps? Lol I always appreciate the ladies that respond to me and share info. I’m not always online but I will respond 🫶🏽
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A lot of helpful info in this blog,
I love to see the community come together
wishing everyone a good day & weekend
😌😘🥳
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I had asked for reference check in NC and got the reference vouched quickly by a mature gal. I made a new friend as this gal can be a good duo partner for me. Networking is the best. It's a win win sometimes!
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I'm not active on here anymore as of lately. With school and work I just don't have the time but I PROMISE I'm not ignoring anyone
Please feel free to reach out if you need anything. I'll make a new text number so that ladies can contact me faster if needed
Sticking together and keeping one another safe is what makes this site so amazing
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Thx June! You are very helpful and a good soul!
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Personally I only request provider reference(s) if a potential client has recent/recurring negative ratings.
If I receive a reference request I will share notes and pertinent info regarding safety, compliance, and hygiene. I do not I think ethnicity, height, weight, age are details necessary to verify if someone is or isn’t safe to see.
I suggest including request for personal and identifying information in your menu if ethnicity, height, weight, and/or age are important to you as a provider.
Levels and network ratings void the need for traditional screening methods, like provider references/verification, and make screening and booking clients faster and easier.
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ok, i think there are two different things being intermingled. Ratings and References.
Ratings are very arbritary, so even if you see someone and they have the best ratings, no red, your experience might be bad or suck. It could go the other way too. We are humans and so each interaction between the two people or 3, might be different. What I would like seen also is after a certain time the ratings just fall off. Why should you be penalized forever. I mean a person can also judge it by looking but i get a question from a provider about a red/bad rating and wanting an explanation, sometimes I forget what happened.
References, well that's more of a hit and miss. I understand people are busy and time is money. Sometimes I might hear back and sometimes I don't. I don't get butt hurt, either way.
I understand everyone is trying to be safe, and it is a social network but hey sometimes you just go out and see what happens, no guarantees. I do stay away if i see a lot of red because then thats a pattern.
Have a good day
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