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Admirable for you to try and confront the problem, but there will always be ghosting. Whether someone’s financial situation has changed leading up to the appointment, last minute family coming by, changing their mind, etc, it’s going to happen.
As long as you are a good communicator with your providers and you know for yourself you tend to keep your appointments, that’s the most you can control. I think that’s more important and can set you apart from a sea of clients.
Truly admirable of you!
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it is a safety issue if the exact location, room number, etc... has been revealed before the no show.
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Not showing up for an appointment, or ghosting someone who arrives for a meeting is not, in my opinion, a dangerous situation, so it should not be a safety issue. This does change when a room number is given out. But I think that happens less than 1% of the time. Ladies, please tell me if my estimate is low. Thank you.
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What you said brings up a whole related topic, what does a guy do when he arrives at a 1-2 star hotel, and there are 5-10 guys hanging around outside.
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This can go all different ways fake pics, upsell menu, waste of time
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"These locations aren’t cheap. You guys can’t be expecting to walk in wanting to do 100-200 donation"
You not being able to afford a hotel is YOUR problem. Stop looking for handouts plenty of women don't get high end hotels because they know they can't afford it
Stop trying to tell someone what they can expect and learn to live within your means. Your bills is your business what we expect is our business don't mix the two concepts they are not mutually exclusive
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Always on time and ready to rock and roll 🎸
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@Matrix She didn't say that. She essentially said to manage your expectations. If you expect for providers to have safer accommodations, and it is our job to ensure your and my safety, you can't expect 100-200 donations. That's not how that works, by reasonable thought. Most providers are in the 300-400 range AND are able to have the 3 - 4-star rooms.
If you cannot afford that expense, there's always someone within that price point but, expect for the accommodations to be rough. The client can always communicate their preferences and move on. No one is forcing you (and I should hope not!). If that's been your experience, I apologize, but just across the board everyone should manage their expectations.
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Tabie, I agree with you. You were on time, and ready to rock n roll!
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And I'm telling you it's not your right to tell us what our expectations should be
If that was the case then we could tell you not to expect to make more than 100 to 200. You see how that works
Stay in your lane.. when you start going down that rabbit hole you are now in an alternate reality
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I’ve been in the rabbit hole for a few years, so I can manage ☺️ Thank you for your concern! But I’m a little confused on why you’re so combative. No one has been rude in the blog Jimmyz has graciously opened the floor for discussion and from your network you haven’t really seen anyone (not that you have to).
But what are you preferences, if you don’t mind sharing?
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No reason for anyone to be upset or hostile.
Like everything in life, NOTHING is free.
If you want to spend $10 for dinner, you will probably have to eat at McDonalds.
If you are ok with $100, your choices will be far greater.
Ladies do have to cover the cost of the hotel room every single night. So if no one comes for a day, they have to cover for that. Hotel rooms fluctuate some much, especially on weekends. So they might not be able to be at as nice a place on Friday night.
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Not combative it's called being uncompromisingly forthright or straight to the point it's just to keep things simple.
My preferences require a more balanced look at things. I take a look at area's where women in this line of work are in true proximity to each other and in real competition to each other and have to talk amongst each other to see what they come up with
There are areas and places you can look at to see if how you are doing is good or bad compared to your peers not on some website but in a real life setting
It's a much different reality then the internet persona. It helps to give a different perspective and balance out the internet side of this business
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I see! I never thought about competition!
Well, my thing is I don't think of other providers as competition. Their business doesn't affect mine and vice versa. I offer what I want to do and a service list curated to my likes; same as others. That seems to be true for a majority of providers I'm friends with. I just spent the weekend with a new girl helping her with her Tryst and PD profiles and she had her first client yesterday (yay!).
My time is my time and who I want to spend it with. The ones who've visited me don't have any complaints regarding my rates and details and I don't think about those who can't afford it. I can afford to be choosier with clients; some can't. My expectations are managed because I set it up that way.
Although, understandable some aren't able to do that just yet. But truly, expectations should be managed across the board based from Starr.Childs original point and the overarching theme of Jimmyz blog.
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Starr.childs approach is flawed that's an entitlement mentality I don't subscribe to that
You are not entitled to something you have not yet earned.
That is why I said girls that cannot afford high end hotels don't go to them not because they don't want them but because they know they can't afford it.
Now you can try that approach all day let's if I'm wrong and you can get guys lining up to pay you 300/500 for those pricey hotels you feel your entitled too.
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^^ calm down rescue ranger don't get your panties all in a bunch. Your problem is you take everything someone says personal put the keyboard down and go take a walk.
There is no secret to what you do everyone knows what's going on with you ladies if you don't believe me ask some of the booker's/managers/pmps they will tell you all the in and outs of your busines.
Your mad because your wrong as usual you are what 22 years old..? who think she knows everything. Your brain isn't fully developed until 26 go soak up some more knowledge because you got a lot to learn little one.
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@Matrixx I don’t think associating with pimps is where your character shines at all. I recognize your username because all you do is argue with providers, which makes me think you’ve been priced out and you’re mad about it. That sucks, but like we said, there’s a price point for everyone; go find it.
You don’t KNOW our business because you’re not out with us. You don’t have a clear understanding and you only have second and third hand knowledge. No one wants to associate with you, dude. And why would we based on how you’re treating people. Your money isn’t that valuable and I’ll be damned if someone does see you.
If you can’t afford it, do like most others and go ghost. That would be the preference, actually.
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^^girl please, I have had the admin from this site pm me reading my blog comments telling me how right I am about you women
Don't need no damn words of encouragement. Stop trying to be internet keyboard warrior trying to hype up your talking points with Emojis anybody can do that.
🤣🤣🤣😜😜😜😂😂😂 You see you look silly. But then again you got have something to do because I bet business must be slow for you
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Alexis you girls can keep trying to spend things to fit your narrative but the bottom line is if what I'm saying means nothing then why are you so mad about it? People don't get upset over things that are insignificant
Instead of worrying about what I'm saying you should be spending your time making money at least thats what the majority of the girls here do or maybe I'm wrong about that too idk you tell me
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"My preferences require a more balanced look at things. I take a look at area's where women in this line of work are in true proximity to each other and in real competition to each other and have to talk amongst each other to see what they come up with "
Is this why you have no network?
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Anyone that has had multiple ATFs know what works. Many here believe they are ATF simply by looks or their experience but have no idea how the All Stars create true magic.
Location and photos are only clues before we meet.
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Mattrix is solely on here to be mean and hateful as all his comments are. He loves to stir the pot. It is as if that is the way for his grand finale. So ignore him.
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And Thank you Alexis. 4 should be the bottom line for good talent. In NC its 5 for 2 hr minimum do definitely cali is more easily
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GIRLS
Don’t take the bait! Don’t fall into the trap that these angry misogynic trolls are setting. They sling insults with the expressed intent of getting someone riled up because they thrive on drama and contentious debate (if it could even be called a debate). When you respond to their mean-spirited philippic you are giving them exactly what they want; acknowledgement - the only tonic for their lonely and otherwise meaningless existence.
ANGER is universally recognized as nothing more than a byproduct of UNRESOLVED HURT. Hurt they experienced as a child, a young adult, or even more recently. Hurt from a failed career, business venture, marriage, or relationship. These angry people, who are angry at the world in general, need to have a mechanism for release of these ugly emotions – and an anonymous blog is the perfect place to do that.
Also take into account a profile that is Level 0 and has absolutely no one in their network. However, they have a prolific amount of blog entries. This is clearly a second profile for someone – their “blogging” profile. This second profile is necessary because of their overwhelming need to vent their anger, even surpassing their primal desire for an intimate connection with someone. If done under their real profile, no one would dare see such a cruel person.
Which brings us to the next point; who are these vicious people? What is their other (true) handle? When I see a statement of:
“^^girl please, I have had the admin from this site pm me reading my blog comments telling me how right I am about you women”
I see an obvious familiarity to the “admin of this site”, which means that this person is probably very well established in their other profile, or this is just a reborn profile of someone that has been recently booted (think: self-destructed). At any rate, don’t think of this entity as a real person like you might do with a regular profile. Rather, see “it” for what it is; a pseudonym for an angry keyboard cow…person.
When you see a blog entry from one of these people, just assume that your computer or phone had the equivalent of an electronic fart. The smell of it will dissipate – just go on about your business. If you linger on the smell, the smell will linger on you.
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My blog has definitely gone in an unexpected direction.
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reading these post by these women you can see where the real hatred comes from
we can debate all day but the way you ladies are taking things so personal on a blog is a little nuts
Some of you ladies need help go see a therapist because a lot of you need it
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Matrix has zip for network , yet he is an expert on this subject. STFU.
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Starr.childs can't help herself i stay rent free in her head. Alexis got the message and she has moved on. No one is attacking you chicks. You just need to stop running your mouths and go get some dates.
Get back on topic with the OP or you can continue to entertain me...
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This blog was so unnecessarily stolen, and it is the exact reason why hx has become a not so great place to hang out. I used to enjoy coming on this site when the blogs were useful because, the comments were constructive and helpful. Matrix I am 49 and have had a profile on hx when it was truthsayer then truthsayerz and it makes me sad that some of the people on here who obviously don't get the purpose of this sight the way it was intended to be used, as a community helping one another stay safe in an industry that is ungoverned . I agree no one should tell one another what o expect from anyone but themselves you also should not say that you know why or what we as providers do or charge or where we stay or what hotel/motel we provide at because many things factor in to all of that. I have been more than able to afford a high end hotel but because motel 6 was walking distance from my house I got rooms there so I did not have to live in a motel I could go home between appointments there are many thing I factor into where I provide. It would be nice if more people thought before blogging and if your isn't helping solve the problem then instead of becoming part of a whole different problem just don't comment. Not only do you not look like a douche, but people won't feel so daunted about blogging about their concerns because all concerns are valid and many can easily be put at ease with very little effort and no one has to be belittled in the process
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I am certain ma trixx And sey b are on here as mod insta nucleus. There is in any and all media those paid or benefiting from rousing uo blogs. Those are top.
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"I agree no one should tell one another what o expect from anyone but themselves you also.."
There is always an exception to almost anything so your scenario can be different but a lot of these girls are sharing rooms these days to cover cost so affordability is definitely an issue
You haven't had the pleasure of walking into a room with 2 or 3 girls huddled up in one room why you banging one and the other two watches because they have no where to go. Those are the types of situations we walk into at middle of the road locations not even high end hotels.
The money in this equation was never the issue, my point was to keep members out your personal business where you chose to lay your head is a personal choice.
As far as everything else goes it's a new hyper sensitive age where everyone gets offended by anything you say so could careless about what a goofball on the internet thinks. Got people like starr.childs who try to form the justice league the moment someone says something she don't agree with
You can't talk nothing constrictive with people like that only have the popcorn ready to enjoy the show they put on for you
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Any provider who allows anyone in the room while she is with someone should receive a negative rating unless you have requested another girl be there she should have no one there that in my opinion is a safety issue in this hobby anonymity is the name of the game and everyone involved should respect one another's privacy my point was more directed to the fact that if those who are blogging are character assassinated or berated when they blog or comment then that defeats the intended purpose of a trust network such as this one which is a tool to keep one another safe within the community there are nicer ways to say things if they are relevant or helpful if they are just negative and useless why say them
Speak only when what you say is more beautiful than the silence
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It’s scary when it happens. Depends on many things. But yes it’s very unsettling when it actually happens.
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Oh, not you again?
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This blog has gotten way off topic. The original question is what should a lady do, if someone doesn’t show up at an appointment.
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This is a hobby for me. Some guys forget that this is a hobby, and they get upset if they are stood up. I think of it as saving money, because if a lady ghosts me after I am there, I wouldn’t have wanted to meet her anyway. But I do take notes, and will never contact that lady ever again.
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I once bought me a $900.00 pair of black mamba cowboy boots with what I call ghost money.
The best part of getting stood up, is the shopping spree with their money. I love buying shit I don't need with the money they want.
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Ghost money is still money.
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