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It's all about communication and consideration of others...
I don't mind waiting if there's a need to freshen up, take care of some personal business, etc... But communicate that and stay in touch... At least that way, I can go run an errand, go to Starbucks and handle some business, etc...
Now I always give a 15 to 30 minute notice that I am on my way over... If I arrive and text my arrival, and get radio silence for 10 minutes, it's really putting a damper on my wanting to meet up and by the 15 minute mark of radio silence I'm no longer interested for that day and I'm leaving and going about my day...
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Very well put PM 15 to 20 min with no communication is my max for day! Again communication is the key!!
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high volume is always a turn off, im glad you give yourself 15 min to freshen off
rinse and repeat
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^ 15 minutes is my limit as well. However, when a guy texts something in that 10 minute window just before the appointment time they should take into consideration that the girl (hopefully) is in the process of getting ready (hair, makeup, attire) and wanting to look her best. If the girl doesn't respond in that 10 minute window then you should consider that. But no significant delay in communication should be allowed after the appointment time has come and gone. If a girl isn't ready and expecting your arrival then she obviously doesn't have her shit together.
Another thing to take into consideration: I have had at least incident of someone using a really off-brand carrier on their hobby phone where the texts were taking 10 minutes to get through - going both ways. I am now on the lookout for these types of delays early in the communication process so I can anticipate it and take steps to prevent a pissed off guy because he thinks I am not responding fast enough. He texts, "I'm here and parked outside." When he doesn't hear anything back in 9 minutes then he either leaves or possibly comes to the appointment in a bad mood. Both scenarios are really bad for business.
But to address OP's main question: I always allow at least 30 minutes between appointments, more if the second appointment is a repeat client that likes to shower afterwards (I promote cleanliness so I never count shower time against their session time). If someone is late and notifies me of the possible delay then it really depends on whether I have another appointment immediately following theirs. If I don't then I don't really trip on it as long as they are providing updated ETA's. If I do have an appointment immediately following theirs then I notify them of that and state that their session start time has to be considered the original appointment time as well as the planned session end time. However, if they are 15 minutes late with an appointment following theirs then I will either cancel the appointment or give them the option of continuing on as long as they leave on time. I will not let a client that can't plan better to impact a client that does.
Girls hate cancelling appointments even more than guys do, but you need to manage your ENTIRE day, not just the next hour or two. And you should never let a client that can't manage his time better to possibly get you in a bind with a repeat client that does respects your time. Repeat clients are the gold standard - don't let anyone fuck that off for you.
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For me it's difficult to get out and play so when I can I really look forward to the sessions, so I try hard to get to where I need to be at least 10 minutes early and appreciate the providers that see me, I don't mind waiting 15-20 minutes if they say they need time to get ready, I would be willing to wait 30 min if there was frequent communication. As said in other posts communication is key on both sides so neither side feels like they are being taken advantage off or disrespected.
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^ So true! Effective communication from both parties would eliminate 95% of the he-said, she-said BS on this site!
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I only see ladies that deliver, so I am flexible if they are running late.
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^ That's right, the BS meter starts jumping at about the second delay.
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Add me to the 15 minutes club. After that, I'm out.
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Curious, does the grace period benefit only the provider or should clients also expect that from the ladies: unforeseen traffic, etc.?
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As stated directly or indirectly by all, communication in both directions is the key !
No one likes radio silence, nobody likes to feel disrespected nor deal with inconsiderate people !
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15 minutes.
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Don't know if all providers do this but I did have a provider extend my session by the amount of time I was late, simply because I did reached out and let her know I missed the turn off due to construction.
Apparently I was the only one to contact her as the others were just no shows and the session was great.
I'll continue to believe it was my consideration that got me that extension and not loss of monetary renumeration.
No matter what you all say
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15 minutes is fine. but if security is strolling around or a lot of people are walking by i will most likely take off. don’t like that awkward feeling just sitting there while people are parking and walking by looking at me.
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I've been spoiled by kgirl promptness so I expect a provider to be ready within 5 minutes of the set appointment time. They never are. So what can you do? You sigh deeply and patiently wait for "the call", lol
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Hey so my thoughts on this is I will give them 15 minutes specially if we have been texting. After that I bounce. FTB
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When it comes to arranging an appointment? I always give one hour+ notice. I never know what goes on in the others' end and I don't like rushing myself either. And I don't know when they'll respond.
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10-15 minutes if they are communicating properly
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When she is late by more than 10 minutes, the hospitality never arrives during the subsequent hour.
Rarely, I've ignored that threshold and been burned.
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This is why I never book back-to-back dates. Always atleast 30 minutes but preferably an hour between sessions. To allow time to compensate for traffic, delays, freaking up, changing the sheets ect.
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Freshening up * lol
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Answer me this, why is it OK fir a girl to be late for appointment? But when a guy is late, say 10, 15 mind, that is count toward his session?
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^ Who said it was OK for a girl to be late for an appointment? That is TABOO in my book!
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I like Fiji's style. Grace and beauty.
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Communication, established relationship and location all matter and can play a role.
Know you and trust you are not going to ghost me I can wait a bit.
Dont know you and have to park close or in view of a lot of foot traffic 15 minutes tops with communication before I get itchy.
Sketchy location, zero contact? Gone in 5 past meet time.
I try to avoid those that stack meetings so close together where a few minutes matter.
OP for you I would wait a lifetime. Well maybe not that long but a bit.
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Basically the same as @PeteMalloy for me.
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+1 on what PM said above
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I understand that STUFF happens.
I will send a message early in the day. If something happened the night before, better to know early. Usually, another message when I am on my way, with an ETA.
At this point, I am hoping you had a chance to read these messages. Hopefully, I know where I am driving to. I'll check your profile and posts to get an idea.
If I don't know where to go, I'll head home. Hopefully you will reply. If you have gone SILENT, then I will DECLARE you cancelled. It's been impossible to say I FLAKED if I don't know where to go.
If everything is good, and I am waiting, I will tell you that I am parked. Time for you to say something.
How long will I wait? Depends on our chemistry and how many times I have seen you. Familiarity has benefits.
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It is nice of you to bring this up. I personally like it when my provider gives herself some time to cool down, wash, and overall freshen up. Nothing worse than realizing your provider just finished with another client just before you get there. If my lady is sweating or sweaty and her poon smells and taste like lube it is a major turn off. I like to think that I am somewhat important to my provider. I hope that they want me to return. I understand business is business but please just ask me to schedule a little bit later so you have the time to freshen up.
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Too many people cannot manage their time!
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I have never quite understood why ladies don't have time management in this industry.
When someone is late, what they are really saying is that they don't have respect for YOU and YOUR time.
I understand that things happen that can be out of our control, but scheduling appointments IS in our control.
15-30 minutes does NOT give anyone enough time in this industry to be ready for the next.
Men shouldn't pay a premium price for a baby wipe wash.
There should be more respect for yourself rather than the mighty dollar.
When planning my schedule, I ALWAYS give time for traffic, accidents, their meeting going over, GPS malfunctions, etc.
The only control that a gentleman has is in leaving a little bit early to avoid these acts of nature, so to speak! 
Of course, when shit happens that is out of our control, communication IS key!
I am grateful to say that in all of my years here, I have ALWAYS be on time for an appointment ...
Cuz I have an abundance of respect for YOUR time as well as mine! 
@->--
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I just gotta say, LacieO is the best on everything and scheduling.
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I really don't understand why 2:00 p.m. does not mean 2:00 p.m. for both parties? (Or insert any time you'd like)
If I schedule at 2:00 p.m. and show up at 2:15 p.m. for an hour appointment then we are done at 3:00 p.m. and i pay the hour rate - that is if I were ever to be late.
Ladies, don't schedule at 2:00 p.m. if you are hoping the dude before me will be gone at 1:45 so you can freshen up and then make me wait until 2:15 p.m. when he stays late, or not freshen up so you can be on time for me.
Because for me personally I expect the time set to be the time kept and I expect you to be fresh as i will have just come from my shower at home. If it drags onto 2:15 I will probably wait, but that is my limit. And then we end at 3:15, not 3:00.
And I don't expect extra service because you were late. But if the session left me on the fence about repeating, being late will push me to the side of not repeating.
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It's all about respect - and it should go both ways. Shit happens, and when it does hopefully minor adjustments can be made. I make it a point to be ready 10 minutes early because about 50% of the guys will show up a little early (eager beavers). That 10 minute window is also a communication blackout for everyone except the expected client. I won't answer my phone for anyone else and won't make an outgoing call. To me, that is just common sense. Giving a guy the best experience possible involves many things.
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It depends for me. I'd LIKE for everyone to honor the appointment within 10-15 minutes. But if it took me a while to drive somewhere, then I might wait longer rather than drive back empty handed (or rather, with a full wallet). I'm not proud to say that I have waited an hour or two at least once in my life. The wait time does factor into my decision on whether to see someone again. Ideally, if you need 15 minutes to get ready, then leave 30 minutes in between your schedule. On the other hand, I understand that your clients are probably late all the time and throw off the schedule, so I'm not particularly mad about having to wait a little bit.
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Yep. Add me to the 15 minute club as well. Just like school. If the professor is a no-show after 15 minutes, we all bounce! If it's a shitty subject we may bounce earlier :-)
I also agree that is it mainly about communication. I have waited as long as 30 minutes after an appointment time because the provider explained to me what the delay was and checked in with me several times and was very apologetic about the situation, which she didn't have very much control over. Going radio silent after you have slipped past the appointment time doesn't set a good impression. And even if the date were to still happen the experience is already off to a bad start. Promptness and communication factors heavily in whether or not I will repeat with someone.
But I get it. There is a problem with client no shows and providers who ghost clients. Not an excuse to model this bad behavior. As a client, my intent is to always honor the appointment I make with a provider because that is what I expect in return. Simple. I'm sure you have heard it before. "Treat others the way you wish to be treated".
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Oh, I misread the topic lol. Uh I guess 10 minutes I'd wait before sending a check-up text.
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Usually- my client has booked an appointment, let's say an hour. The client has already sent a deposit to secure a time. If we are to meet at 7am, and my client arrives at 730am... he still has until 8am. Prebooked time.
With that in mind, the client usually informs me if he is running late. I will wait for his/her whole appointment time with communication.
I will only wait 30 minutes, if my client is a nocall/noshow (due to 50% deposit).
I also do not have back to back appointments. I make sure to have time for full head-to-toe showers before and after sessions.
It's quite possible that our meeting could possibly go over if my client is running late. However, that is a case by case situation, but I'll never have back to back appointments and I do not stay the night at an incall.
Personally, if I am late, there's something definitely wrong and I'll make it up when possible. Time management is very important to me.
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I know you are seeing other clients before and after but I don’t want to know about it. Don’t tell me u r running late because you are screwing another client. I will bail. Had one girl who texts me that her client won’t leave and then 5 min later told me to come up. Ummm….no thanks.
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Marrisa G, looks like you got your shit together. Being respectful, being considerate, and COMMUNICATION, are keys to any successful relationship. When it comes to being in military operations, if your comm goes down, your ass is SOL. The SOP for any artillery unit, "Shoot, Move, and Communicate". Thanks for HX Etiquette 101
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Communication is key! I don't stack up on appointments so I can have a nice grace period for my guests if they are late even though i do like to use that time to reset, clean the room and take a nice hot shower.,
If I don't get an "im running a little late" message and the appointment start time has past then i send an "are you close?" message. Most often there's a response and its just a slight traffic delay. Occasionally i get "oh i haven't left the office yet" "I need 45 more minutes"or just silence (no call/no show). In those cases I feel like They scheduled just to play with me, so I don't give second chances.
Side note: I have never been late to an Outcall and incalls sometimes a friend shows up early and i just need 5 minutes or less to finish getting dressed.
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I'm glad this was posted and I hope ladies will pay attention to it. I often have a small window of availability and need to keep on schedule. 15 minutes without communication is my absolute maximum and truthfully even with communication much more delay than that can make the session not possible for me. For my part I make it important to be punctual and considerate of the ladies' start (and stop) time.
As was mentioned earlier, my phone app has delayed messages before and caused misunderstandings.
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There is a very popular apartment complex near South Coast that used to have the absolute shittiest cell service, like a real dead zone that caused all kinds of delays and anxiety. Sometimes you had to drive out of the complex to the Starbucks across the street or climb a tree to send a text. What a nightmare that was that has been fixed after many a delayed hook up.
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We’re all on the same page for communication. But if the hotel has a bar downstairs (already open), then she can take twice as long, because the last thing i wanna smell is the sweat of the Chewbacca before me.
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I don't have much time left on this plane jk 🤣🤣🤣 so time equates to $$ and I don't intend to waste my or yours, on a serious note there are many factors that will influence grace period 15 MAX for me both ways as long as we have an open communication, meaning exchange of necessary information not an "open one end unnecessary dialog." I live in a centric area where phone signals are not an issue. I am assuming that I am dealing someone who want to be treated the same way you treat me. If its a new client I explain how I handle things. Even though I don't see many people on this site but I can filter all the BS and ignored their messages. If a perspective guest messaged me and have no activity since 1821, or haven't seen someone in my area or age range I'll ignore it. Saving my time and spear myself of headaches. Let me explain a HX member that have been in this site since the beginning of human creation and have since providers in their late teens early 20's i can .are a pretty educated guess that sure as hell not interested in seen me. I am aware of where I stand in the pecking order😉 despite what people think I'm not delusional 🤣
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Communication is the key! I can only imagine if I arrive somewhere at agreed time and get no response, I'd be piss. Lol
And 30 minutes is a long time, me personally I'll give it 15 minutes top. If I get no response I'm out!
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I personally think when we drive an hour or more to see someone, waiting 15 min or more past the appt time is acceptable considering time already wasted. Does this enable bad behavior? It certainly does. For regulars, I don't mind that much. But for the 1st meet, there probably won't be a 2nd meet up. Overall, just treat people how you want to be treated. I luv my HX community. Let's all be responsible adults and treat each other with respect and not waste the precious time we have on this earth.
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For me, it's just a matter of communication and managing expectations. Generally, I think 15 minutes is a good rule, but I don't always have 15 minutes to give. If you are doing a QV or a HH, then 15 minutes is either 100% or 50% of the session time.
Always gotta account for traffic and don't use your GPS software or app as the gospel. Add 25-50% time to it to give some cushion. If the provider only takes cash then give yourself enough time to get cash. Shower before if you can. If you need to shower then communicate that upfront and see if that counts against the session time. Some girls run on booker schedules, and they get booked back to back, so you can't expect to not run on a tight clock.
I can't speak for the ladies' side of things but I do hope that they allocate enough time to shower in between sessions, not just "freshen up." We are being intimate with each other, so merely wiping the outer parts isn't sufficient if someone went down on you before I came there. If I saw a provider before you, wouldn't you also want me to shower or do you want me to just birdbath it in the sink and expect you to do BBBJ?
It's all about managing expectations and communication.
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if i am waiting for a Girlnextdoor619 it can b indefinitly  she is the exception to the rule 
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Hahahaaa well thank you @Grooviefan But I’d certainly be waiting for you early and with open…. Ummm…. arms. That’s it…. open arms. LOL
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