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I personally don't mind either way since I'm single anyway. I will say it's definitely an ego/confidence boost when a provider reaches out and it'll get me to book.
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The providers that I see regularly know they can contact me whenever mainly because I told them that I was cool with it and that I don't want to miss a chance to seem them when they are in town. But really, it's just one who contacts me. I always look forward to hearing from her.
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hx mail is always safe for me.
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I'd always be happy to get a message from OP.
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Reach out.
Lead time is important
I luv that you want me.
Descreet as always.
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I am always happy to hear from the ladies I see, specially if they are my regulars, The ones that message me remember me and what I like from my experiences
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Every entity that I conduct transactional business with will generally reach out via email or text. Usually it is a short message filled with the perfunctory pleasantries, but basically reminding me that they are available to me for more business. Those entities do indeed receive more business from me, and more recommendations to others. Seems like it could be more appropriate here, especially if the initial interaction was positive.
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Nah don't do that shit unless you're given the okay. It can be fucken annoying
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I am with you girl! I would absolutely feel horrible if I ruined a clients family or relationship, I too just typically chill and play the waiting game. Hope everyone has a beautiful day off to work for me  hugs
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I love to see a messages informing me you would be in town and love to meet up. The only thing is make is personal, show that you remember me, if you do you'll absolutely get my attention. The texts of "I'll be in your town" don't really elicit much of a response for me.
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Idc how many times I've seen someone. Unless I know that you live alone, I will RARELY message people first
I do love to hear from my friends but I feel that it's better safe than sorry
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PMs are always welcome , safe
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@OP
You make a very valid point. Protecting a person's hobby activities is one of the most important aspects.
I find that most people that are afraid of an accidental outing will tell me ahead of time to only contact them first under certain circumstances. I precede their phone number with a code that tells me to not reach out to them first (e.g., xxx619-000-0000). That I have their number on record is a great indicator that they are completely safe and I can bypass a lot of screening.
Having said that, for those that don't have that problem a heads-up that I will be in their area is usually appreciated and, quite honestly, very effective.
It's a fine line between effective communication and major drama time!
BTW - when I get a spurious response from a reach-out like, "Who is this?" I don't automatically assume it is the person I am trying to reach, it could another other person in their household. In that case I usually respond, "Sorry, I must have fat-fingered the input," then code the number. I would rather lose that person than out them!
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The HX mail/PM system is here for a reason. If you had a good time with someone and want to see them again, shoot them a PM letting them know you will be in their area. It is good to do it several days to a week in advance, but can be same day. You can even set it to expire in a certain number of hours, so if they don't log on until after your visit they won't even see the message.
Many ladies have their own HX clubs that her friends can join. Then she can send out a weekly broadcast message of where she will be that week.
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HX mail is always the best. Being discreet is very important.
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Looks like someone needs to set up mailing list subscriptions for escorts lol
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Over a dozen comments and not one mention of a separate burner phone?
That's one reason to get one, I might turn on the burner for a week (or more) depending on my schedule
I don't get out much, but yeah, send a nice message is fine,
My biggest risk is keeping burner accessible to me, but not to others
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I can tell you first hand experience, 6 years ago my wife saw a text, even though I was using an app and not my primary phone.
This cause her suspicion and found a condom in my suitcase.
This was there because a provider didn’t have any after showing up for a session and I had to leave, purchase and comeback.
I forget to dispose or hide the remaining condom and she found it.
Since then it’s been hell, counseling, therapy, journaling, meditation and lots of conflict.
I was a Level 5 with an extensive network, cancelled all accounts and change phone number, bank accounts and lost a lot of freedom.
Still together, relationship will never be the same but we kind of have an unspoken agreement.
Still hobby once in awhile but very selective and cautious.
So thank you OP, in my case never, never ever initiate a text or call.
PM is fine, but it can be very destructive.
Of course, all of this is my own damn fault, I am responsible for my actions and my behavior!
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@june, just a reminder, I live alone. Reach out anytime.
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Be sure and send him points
cardinalnic12 can't send mail at the moment, but if you unlock some for them, they would certainly appreciate it!
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Nope I do not reach out to anyone no matter how close and special our relationship may be, there is this thing called "respect boundaries" one day he may be in all love and in a groovy mood the next minute he may want to pressed the reset life bottom 🤣🤣 so unless he reaches out to me we live in the neutral zone area I do not want to spoil our amazing and wonderful relationship happy Friday everyone much live out to the whole community
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Burner phone if you’re able to have one but again we have to remember it’s about having fun, a hobby & that everyone has their own separate, personal lives as well. Respect each others decisions & help support the community as a whole.
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I do what is asked of me. 
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^^ can always ask me about my tomatoes 🍅
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Girl you definitely read my mind! I was thinking about that TODAY! Still can't figure out if I should text or not.
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personally , when everything is said and done i let them know i will reach out to them again in the future and keep them in my mind. otherwise when i have received unsolicited text messages i just find them a very minor annoyance - nothing frustrating or something to get angry about. its just i usually engage with someone when i am in a particular mood or want to relax with someone. and these feelings are not all the time due to time constraints, funding, personal life etc. so the unsolicited messages dont work on me. but i dont hate on them.
but: my personal two cents is to hold off the contacting and let them reach out to you instead. there are other avenues as others said for ways to contact - less intrusive ways such as PM and all. but for me personally: i just shrug off the random texts. but for others as some have mentioned: it may cause an issue.
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Hi cardinal ! You can text me anytime I still have the same number 💘
I also have ADHD so I'm pretty "out of sight out of mind" .. . Also if I don't message someone IT IS NOT because I don't want to see you, it's just because idk if you want to see me or not so I don't want to bother
I'm single, solo and always a phone call away! Never hesitate to reach out ANYYYYYYYYTIME!
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Lusin that's how it should be. Unless someone specifically asks you to hit them up
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hey june i have exactly same thinking reach out to me same NUMBEr , hope we connect soooon
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just turn off notifications the way you control ...
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If in doubt. Keep it to DM's on this site.
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Some years back a colleague told me his wife (at the time) found a condom in his shorts. I asked him “used or unused.? this was after he paid-a visit to a strip club. I again asked him “ VIP room or lap dance?”
Expensive divorce ensued.
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Burner. No problem with reaching out.
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Exactly, there is this one provider on this site that texts me every time she is near by and always from a different number. If I was married that would be a huge burn.I don’t think she would like it if I called her regular job asking what time she gets off?
Get a clue people.
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@FlappyNutSack
actually... how was your summer crop? everything turn out?
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I was on the road and a little neglectful but came home to bumper crops from Plants Gone Wild (which are like Girls Gone Wild without the boobs).
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the thought of plants with boobs!! very hot lol
what is wrong with me? lol
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Nice said I don’t mind receiving text because I’m not in a relationship I’m single but when I have been, I shut this down so I’m single again
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Come on, a Shishito pepper plant with a nice set of double D’s is totally hot!
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A call is not same as text
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Like it above^ lol
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Well.. I’m very professional with what is texted .
No trail of “hey baby” or hobby jargon.
Very clear Yes or NO. Discreet and mindful messages.
No details or addresses texted, I’ll call.
I love voice clips as they disappear on iPhone , I believe.
After meeting, I make sure my name on their phone is mechanic,
which is fitting.
And no late texts. And I don’t do random unless asked.
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