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I would say a 15 minute delay is the maximum, but that assumes the person has already contacted you and notified you of the impending delay. If they have not notified you BEFORE THE APPOINTMENT TIME that there will be a delay then there is simply no excuse.
If you are already stressed because of the radio silence then you should consider that the session (if it eventually transpires) is going to be somewhat dampened and possibly a little disappointing.
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However, if there is a bar in the lobby, I can be a little more patient =)
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I have it 20 which included texting and HX messaging to communicate. Oh Well! But now I need to find someone to hang out with for today.
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For 1 never go to the address
Go nearby so ur not getting set up
Or looking like ur waiting around to do something bad.
Constant communication.
Sending check in hours and hour leading
And voice call
And an ETA when u arrive
Is best for any type of meet up
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Names or it didn't happen
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Typically, lower the rating, higher the mistakes.
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If you have ever been married or had a significant other live with you then you know waiting for 20 minutes is nothing. Anything over 45 minutes then I would get upset but not show it. When time one the other was being really late I went outside and started pulling weeds and digging in the garden. She ended up going to the party without me because I would not clean the dirt off my clothes and hands. That pretty much ended that relationship.
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Gina has good advice. Follow that, and do not get into the tit for tat ratings squabble. No one wins
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10 minutes of radio silence should elicit a text and call. 15 minutes of silence should elicit a text that you are leaving. And then leave and not come back. If they answer, you have choices.
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Ten-fifteen min tops
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4-6 hours. Then I run an errand, get a bite, then maybe another 4-6 hours. But fuck it after that, I am done! Until the following day….
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I've been kept waiting 45 min. Good advice to text or call after 15 min
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10 to 15mins is the common norm but if there is communication it can be worked out a bit.
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Yes, 10-15 is a decent amount of time. Longer than that absent some previous communication is lack of time management. A simple text to explain a delay is just common courtesy.
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All day. Pussy over everything !
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I would say, how much waiting depends on how often/how many times you've met.
I was a regular, and I noticed (3rd visit), that my ATF was later and later... I would text, and wait. Then text or call again. What was the longest I waited? 3.5 hours.
I had fallen asleep in my car, and didn't realize that I did... When I woke up, she was more than 3 hours late. She made up for the delay. It was pure passion.
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All great ideas, thoughts, and recommendations. For me at least, no reason to review with a bad rating, nor call her out. I trust there is a good reason and don't know it, nor need to.
I did text about 1 hour before with "see you soon". I was on-time offsite at a parking spot awaiting her specific instructions. At a few minutes before the hour and per her instructions I texted I was parked. Waited 3 minutes, then used HX messaging to let her know I was parked. After the hour I sent "hey I hope everything is okay" texts and then started this post. 20 minutes after I headed to work.
Odd part, I did see her a few months ago and it was great! Super safe, clean, and perfectly adequate for the first meeting. It sucks as I thought I found my regular. Her age, body type, and overall vibe is super sexy for me.
After that first visit I booked a week later as I said with wanting a regular. The night before the appt I did receive a text from her saying a regular needed my spot.... ( I should have read between the lines there).
Last night she msg me the full (instructional) messages about timing, parking, health, etc... and I assumed it was aaaaalllll gUd!
Today, crickets......
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Sounds like your pending regular just became a past acquaintance. Sorry bud, hard lesson learned, but plenty of kitties out there.
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This also is when Uber and or Lyft comes in handing. Just log back on and take the next trip in the direction of plan B.
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How ever long it takes plan B to respond.
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If you know the girl went out of their way to see you, and you booked last minute, be polite and wait for her to get back to the room if she is down the street, or if she is getting something to eat. If she dissidents certain time and she is not there by the time agreed upon, I leave after 15 minutes and I leave both a PM and a text so she is aware, that way we both know it wasn’t a FLAKE.
As mature adults, the RED rating for not showing up on time is a waste. Just don’t go see that girl again. It was her loss, and that’s it. Prevent the drama!
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Agree with above. Just leave. Just because someone is late, doesn’t mean they are unsafe.
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scotty949, had I seen this yesterday I would've let you come over and play with me. I probably would have been late, but I wouldn't have ghosted you that's for sure.
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I like Fiji’s answer 🤣🫶😂
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Will if you like her answer it shows both of you are flakey, unreliable, and pieces of work.
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10-15 minutes max, especially if she had one day in advance notice.
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+1 on Marrisa's answer.
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This is my Modus Operandi that has worked for me over the years :
Example :
Appointment has been set at say 10 am that morning...
Around 1:15 pm - cause everything takes 45 minutes to get somewhere, I send a text that I am leaving my house or office with - I'm on my way to our 2 pm in Irvine...
* If I don't get an " Okay Babe " at this point, I'm not worried...
I usually text again that I'm either 5 or 10 minutes away, and if I don't get a response
at this point, now I'm a bit worried...
I always text that I am here and parked, at this point the timer is basically on, and it's 10 minutes because I had already texted at 1:15 pm and 1:50 pm - so that is now considered ghost time... If 2:10 pm is reached and I haven't heard anything, I'm on to a plan b option, or just going to run errands or go home...
I don't write a lady off or get mad or rate negatively, shit happens, and if they text later that shit happened I'm cool with it... It just depends on the situation and how bad I want to see the lady. Sometimes, it's never rescheduled, other times it has been rescheduled...
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This week has been super weird it seems like but all these answers are spot on
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10 minutes max
Make a phone call if needed but it's kind of inconsiderate to leave someone waiting over 15
But please don't be like that one person who canceled my appointment because I arrived to him 5 mins late lmfao because that's just unreasonable 😭🤣
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And do not get into a rating battle. Shit happens so move on to plan B
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When I see someone that does not respect the other person's time the first thing that pops into my mind is, "That person lacks empathy!" Not an inspiring trait! Makes me think if I really want to see this person at all.
Effective Time Management is paramount. Showing up on time (for either party) should be the expected norm. But life is not linear, we can make meticulous plans that can be subsequently impacted for a multitude of reasons. In other words, shit happens!
As soon as someone knows, or even suspects, that an agreed upon appointment time needs to be adjusted (or even cancelled) they owe it to the other person to notify them AS SOON AS THEY THEMSELVES KNOW - not wait until it is close to the appointment time, or even worse, after the appointment time.
Immediately after setting an appointment I inform the client that they need to provide updated ETA's if they are going to be more than 5 minutes EARLY OR LATE for the appointment. On my end, I always try to be ready 10 minutes before the appointment time. Between the two, I rarely have a situation where showing up on time is an issue.
Effective communication can prevent 90% of these types of complaints. Showing a little empathy can prevent the remaining 10%.
But IN NO WAY should appointment time mishaps be considered a safety issue.
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I’d say 15min max
other than that the session wouldn’t be enjoyable anymore
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Sitting in my car waiting for 10 minutes or more in public is very uncomfortable.
Agree 100% with PeteMalloy's method - this is very similar to what I do. If I do not get a response from the 45-minute "I'm on my way" message or the "I have arrived and parked" message, I get ready to leave after waiting 10 minutes. at the 15-minute mark, I leave after sending a message saying "I'm sorry our schedules did not mesh today." As Marrisa said, I do not consider appointment time problems a safety issue, or a reason to give a negative rating.
I also agree with Marrisa that effective communication prevents much misunderstanding and showing empathy is always best. (Thank-you, Marrisa!)
(At an AMP I never have to wait.)
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Time management is not a safety issue. You are not being physically harmed by waiting. It's just a fact. It is an inconsideration issue. Women complain about having to wait 15-20 minutes in their room for a guy to show up. On the flip, women make guys wait more than 20 minutes at the last minute after the guy has driven sometimes from a different county to see them.
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The theme that everyone hits upon is consideration of others, and that's very nice to see.
I know this rarely happens, but if I arrived and then got a message from a lady that something has happened inside of the hotel and that she has to move rooms and it may be 90 minutes of a delay,
I wouldn't wait in the parking lot, but if I had the time to make it 90 minutes later, I'd go run errands or go to Starbuck's or whatever, and that's because the lady was considerate of my time and was a great communicator.
When consideration and communication diminishes between two parties, that's just wrong and rarely has a positive outcome.
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I just don't understand why the community is all over this. I get texts while driving over expecting immediate responses. Sorry, not while driving. Then some locations have security walking around and a single guy waiting in a car, what is the response he is to give if questioned? "Who are you going to see?" Well I have this cellphone number here let's see which phone rings when I dial it? Let's all be respectful of each other's time and realize that things come up and try to keep each other informed if we can't be on time.
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